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Last week I discussed my six pet peeves about middle-aged men's online dating profiles , and I assured everyone that this week I'd focus on middle-aged women's online dating profiles. Since I am much more familiar with men's profiles, I recruited some of my single male friends (and the Twittersphere) to help me with this post. Backpage escorts in White Lake Manitoba. This list is my best effort at summarizing the results of my informal survey, with some of my own observations predicated on a little research I conducted myself. Disclaimer: if you're a woman between the ages of 45 and 60, living in the Chicagoland area, and I popped up on your "Viewed Me" list, I'm sorry, really. Anyway, here goes:

Manner too Many Pet Photos. This was a tremendous criticism among the men I interviewed. They are taking a look at your profile to learn more about you, not your pets. So delete the pet photographs, particularly the ones without you in them. Oh and while we are on the subject of pet photographs, I have a private request of all you single, middle-aged women out there on dating websites: please, please, please delete any and all photos of your cats. This really is really significant. I can't emphasize it enough. Single, middle aged women already must deal with much too many negative stereotypes, and the cat pictures (you cuddling with your cats, you kissing your cats, multiple cats on your bed) only function to augment them. I once composed a blog post about how dating occasionally made me feel unwelcome , and I got hundreds of comments from single middle-aged men throughout all of North America notifying me that I must live in a dark flat with 100 or so cats, so really, please delete them.

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No. More. Instagram. Photos. I love Instagram photographs because lots of the filters make my eyes appear strikingly blue (or green, or lavender), and some even shave about 10 years off my face. But do I post these photographs on my online dating profile? No I don't. Backpage Escorts near White Lake Manitoba, Canada. Why? Because my eyes aren't really that blue (or green or lavender), and I am about 10 years older than my Instagram photos would have you believe. This was the number one criticism among the guys I interviewed - artistically filtered (i.e., delusory) photographs. Truth in advertising ladies, truth in advertising.

Athletic and Toned Means, well, Athletic and Toned. I despise the body descriptors as much as you do (well, except for you size 0 women out there, you probably love them), but I do believe it is significant that we at least strive for truthfulness. The word on the street is the fact that way too many women out there in the online dating world are employing the "athletic and toned" descriptor in reference to their "about average" bodies (this complaint applies to guys as well, of course). Backpage Escorts Near Me Wetikoweskwattam Manitoba. The thing is, there really is not anything wrong with having an around average (or curvy) body thus let's take the pressure off ourselves and heed the guidance of Amy Schuler, and recognize once and for all that a little meat on our bones is not going to kill us, and it isn't going to drive away the good guys either (appropriate, good guys?).

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Tone Down the Boudoir Photos. You say you desire an excellent man who honors you as a human being and is interested in having a serious relationship with you, then you post pictures of yourself next to your bed (or on your own bed, or in your bed, or in somebody else's bed). And if you're not posting photos of yourself next to your bed, (or on your bed, or in your bed), you're posting photos with way too much cleavage. White Lake Backpage Escorts. Now, that is completely fine - I don't have any difficulty at all with this, and I'm certain many men do not have a problem either - but what some men do have a problem with is when women post said super-hot glamor shots and then whine to their buddies, or make statements on their profiles about how all guys are dogs and just need them for sex. And while we're on the topic of criticism-filled profiles...

Stop Using Your Profile to Whine about Men. Several guys noticed how many women's online dating profiles are comprised mainly of complaints about guys - either their profiles, or their behaviour in general. I agree with the men on this one. There's no point in using your profile narrative as a soapbox for your negative understanding of all single, middle-aged men (for heaven's sakes make use of a blog for that). So while I am sure there are men (and women) out there who are logged on and behaving badly, I really believe that women must take responsibility for their own choices. We can keep our positive expectations while at the same time heeding our inner voice that warns us when something is not quite right. Far too frequently some women are led not by common sense, but by wishful thinking and also a desire to be nice and not seem impolite, so we discount the large, red flashing warning lights raging in our heads and proceed without caution. I once met a woman who expressed great depression that she just couldn't trust the guys she met online. She then continued to tell me a story about one of these men who spent days (yes, days) wooing her via email. He told her stories of his limitless abundance and his connections to powerful people all around the globe. She slept with him on the second date (after he promised to whisk her away to a private island that next weekend). But that's not all. She also gave him all of her identifying information when he told her that she needed to be vetted by "his people." And guess what? Yep! Her identity was stolen. Whining about how she could just no longer trust men she met online was a bit like complaining about how she could simply no longer trust Nigerian princes.

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One more thing. I'd like to ask all of my middle aged internet dating male and female compatriots a favor. Please, let us rid our profiles of these overused phrases once and for all: glass-half-full, sexy, drama-free, and easygoing. And these, let us omit these too: "I look 10 years younger than I am," "I hate talking about myself, but..." and any and all derivatives of "my buddies/mother/ex/children tell me that..I am a glass-half-total optimist, who's easy going and looks 10 years younger than I am." I think that if we can all agree to clean up our profiles then maybe, just maybe, we can find some common ground and get back to the company of falling in love (or at least having fun trying).

I feel like I 'm aging out" of internet dating. White Lake Manitoba Backpage Escorts. I've seen after my last birthday (I turned 54 in June) that the answer I get on has dropped to nearly nothing. It's as though going from the early 50s to the mid 50s is some sort of death knell for a dating life. I initiate contact with men in an age-range of about 3 years younger up to about 8 years older than myself. The possible matches the site sends me are age appropriate for me, but when I look in the age-range that those men desire, (typically 35-50) I regularly move past them, knowing I can not compete with women in their desired range, even though many of those men are as much as 5-8 years old than me! To put it differently, intentionally sends me matches which are probably not realistic for me to pursue. When I have e-mailed a number of those men, I don't hear back. I'm guessing they check out my profile, see my age, and probably read no further. Even if I'm within their desirable range, I still don't get much of a response. Backpage escorts near me White Lake, Canada. I assume the reason behind this is they can get younger women to respond to them, so why would they go for me when they've a chance with the 45 year old model of me? If their first wife was their age, like a school love or whatever, they likely feel entitled to a newer model, so to speak. Our culture supports this. It's frustrating, as well as depressing and more than a little humiliating. It is the built in folly of on-line sites: you're just defined by your age, in bold type right next to your user name.

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I get what you're saying. When my marriage fell apart a year ago people attempted to reassure me that I was a catch. And I still thing I should be - am tall, trim, look youthful for 48, run my own successful firm, understand just how to dance, am a community leader with environmental education and in my profession, lecture at university, write, from an exotic place (Alaska). As a result I'm really busy so online dating looked like the solution. But in fact in six I can count on one hand the number of women who have written back and no actual dates. I picked women in my date range and attractiveness range. Backpage Escorts Near Me White Plains Manitoba. Simply to check I wrote to fairly mature women and not as attractive than myself. Nothing. Got on Tinder and swiped almost every woman. Tried all types of pictures. Nothing. while I talk to my female friends they say they are inundated. The sole dates I've had, 2, were from old buddies who both told me they had been fantasising about me for years but then they left it at that and rarely return my calls. At Meetups women look interested however they don't respond. Simply do not realize this, it is as if they expect me to pursue them and I am unwilling to do that because the two times I did that when my marriage was souring permanently alienated good pals. Really out to sea on all of this - so much has changed since I was last dating 26 years past.

Kathleen, I'm an elderly man and most women on line in my age group make out they aren't interested in the younger guys. But of course they are. It is just that all the younger guys approaching mature women are mostly, looking for what they consider to be the quickest way to get easy sex. They simply show interest in guys their very own age when the supply of younger men dries up, or the men start to lose interest in them. It's insulting to me. And that is why I am not interested in the women, my age who approach me.

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Men over 45 do have more options regarding dating. White Lake Manitoba backpage escorts. But there are ways around this. First, a girl has to specifically state what she offers a guy (that he needs) in the context of dating and relationships. I've read tens of thousands of female profiles (35-55 years old) and practically not one of them really say what they provide a guy. Normally, itis a listing of demands and preferences. This isn't good marketing. A woman must have the ability to answer the question What do I offer a man he desires?" If she doesn't understand, (or is offended by the question) she is not prepared for dating.

Debby, you're discussing rot as far as I'm concerned. I'm 62 and let me tell you, I've had nights" with women 20-30 years younger and they don't even ask what I do for a job. Sure the long term prospects aren't good with a much younger woman. But in my experience a great deal of much younger women go for me. They say I am a silver fox and handsome lol - Sorry, but as much as youwant to believe it is all about a cynical cash grab, I need to inform you we older guys, like some old women bring the opposite sex. Regrettably, many don't bring the opposite sex. nature is unkind.

I have exactly the same observation. Andrew. For awhile I was amazed at women's profiles with their shopping list of demands (don't contact me if...you must be blah blah blah....""with no statement of what they have to offer. Surely a man can gather much about a female from reading her profile, and women in many cases are so inundated with responses from inferior matches that they become exasperated and start to establish bounds; yet for me this language indicates an attitude of entitlement and self absorption, and suggests perhaps an assumption that she's the more desired one in the deal. Perhaps women are accustomed to being pursued. A more sensible mature woman will comprehend that relationships aren't just about her and her needs. Definitely guys can frequently behave the same style, only wanting sex. I consider the deeper truth is that many folks merely blunder automatically into relationships, compelled by their poorly understood desires, knowing neither themselves or what they want from a relationship.

The amusing thing is both me and my current bf ONLY dated younger for the most part when online dating. He said it was vanity on his part and I told him I did it'cause I could (get away with it). But asI've stated numerous times on this particular blog, I also was only capable to date younger (my normal preference except for my present same-age bf) cause I lied about my age. White Lake, Manitoba Backpage Escorts. Backpage Escorts closest to White Lake. Shaved off quite a couple of years too girls! lol I was born in 1953, but wouldput 1960 or1961 on my profile. What helped is I 've a killer figure (slim, but curves, 36D) and pretty face thanks to years of intermittant plastic surgery (but nothing below the waist til lately (coolsculpting which I recommend). Myplastic surgeon's nurse says I project youthfulness and look, on a good day, in my 40s still. So, I Have had a clear edge. I guess I am one of the lucky ones, but I believe that it's a combo of my style, a form of God glow"/spiritualityand seems. Men have always been brought to me in person. Big time. Occasionally it was flattering and occasionally a issue frankly.

I've decided if my bf and I break up (God PROHIBIT as I'm very in love with him) I won't return to online dating but will give celibacy a shot. Relationship after, say, 58 or 59 ISN'T worth the effort imo. Maybe 'cause eventually you're stuck with all these bitter, old, paranoid,hypocritical boomer men. White Lake, Manitoba Backpage Escorts. I really don't know....Am acceptable with my solitude now. Crave it actually (bf and I 've a long distance relationship but just 72 miles). We're merely apart about 4 nights before reunited though. And intend to live together at some point later on. So my dating experience can be best summed up by the old standard Just in Time". Listen to the Streisand version circa 1965. White Lake, Manitoba Backpage Escorts.

There is plenty more here, as I discovered when I first came here over two years ago; in fact, compared to some of what I read about my generation of men (baby boomers) here, that one is certainly light and benign. I have read far more hateful invective on this site, couched in rhetoric computed to be as offensive, inflammatory, hurtful, degrading and emasculating as possible, aimed at ALL (a regular declaration) guys in my age group. The authors of the pot of hater-aide? Only the youthful thirty and forty something women fed up with the improvements of creepy old men"? Nope; the women of my own generation, for the large part, sometimes egged on by young men like Nathan, who seems to think his generation invented notions like introspection, self awareness, and personal growth, together with pretty much everything else (see his self serving, patronizing little discourse on old Boomer men" below). Backpage escorts near White Lake. Notice how he follows up with this little jewel, The age and photo driven nature of online dating makes it more difficult for Boomer women to polish, regardless of what they do." Of course, the unspoken assertion is the fact that Boomer guys have no such difficulty, and when they do, they deserve it. I beg to differ. The ones of us who'll actually date women in our own age group, are automatically rejected online (without even a profile view) by most of the same women, who now feel entitled to guys from 15 years younger to no more than 2 years older than themselves (or so say their online profiles). Let a man express interest in virtually any girl younger than himself, and he's promptly labeled a creep, a pervert along with a dirty old man; yet women like Ellen come here, can't resist bragging about dating guys 17 to 22 years younger than me" and the chorus of applause from the distaff side is deafening. Pot, meet kettle!